Fear of sex is a fundamental part of women's sexual liberation. Temptation, to men, is their only fear. They are scared of a woman's body. I am not calling straight men (/men in power) gay. If you see that sentence and think that, I am going to hunt you down. We see at the forefront of feminist promiscuity rappers and models who have long since become cultural icons who will be remembered time forever onwards.

Megan thee stalion, no doubt, is the arbiter of sexual beauty. Despite countless people bashing her for her masculine (black) features, she is the feminine incarnate. No opinion can stop her from being so unapologetically herself. Despite her songs, in 2020, she got on Hot 97 and denounced all the I dont have THAT many sexual partners. This hypocritical existence of promiscuously chaste is something we see all the time. These hypersexual artists, especially the black women, are rejecting sexual oppression norms which is wonderful and great and awesome to see, but when you properly examine the way these women have to carefully portray themselves as, its not liberation at all. On the outside, their persona as a liberated women, free to fuck whoever they want whenever, is harbouring some pretty traditional, old-fashioned, and hypocritical views underneath. The transition from slut shaming to purposeful sexualization in the 2000s was extremely jarring.

Everything requires nuance, despite what the TikTok would say. (This text didn't need any discussion of Tiktok but every piece of work i produce includes a bashing of tiktok so I just needed to add this) Sexual liberation of women is still a response to men. Still pleasing for men. These artists are carefully toting the line between being the ultimate sex object for men to conquer while still believing in and spouting their ideologies.

Excerpt from Casualities of the sex war by Karen Durbin, 1972:

The fact remains: men are a necessity to heterosexual women. One sees, however, some peculiar accommodations to that heterosexuality now, primarily the stillborn attempts by women to forge these new, freer relationships with men. The old nightmarish dependence begins to go out the window, as one divests oneself of the idea of marriage-happily-ever-after. But what is taking its place? Partly, it seems, a game of imitate-the-oppressor. Women talk about the freedom to treat men as sex objects, rumors circulate that the magazine Ms. will have a male fold-out (not true; however, Cosmopolitan, a magazine which excels at turning the concept of female freedom on its heading bizarre ways, is putting this piece of nonsense on the market in April).

Now, should we really expect women who enjoy her music to think so politically when Megan's song turns on at the club? NO! It's ok to feel good when listening to these songs. That's why they are there! They do not serve the empowerment of women politically, but socially, they absolutely do.

I see a lot of people struggle to separate interpersonal connections and political discussion. Bitch used as an endearing term is cool. Societally, however, it is a label given exclusively to women, or sometimes men who act like women. I am exhausted of its usage by male friends, peers, and strangers alike. It is a reminder I will always be an other. I do not want to get into that whole julia fox fiasco where that person tried to say that white women think bitch is the n word because i am so tired of thinking about it. Anyway! What I am trying to get at with this point is that we cannot expect humans to be perfectly nuanced without being hypocritical.

Ironically, I saw a comment on Reddit (and I am so sorry for using a redditor as evidence to a feminist piece of work) that read, conservative men want women to be private property. Liberal men want women to be public property. and. yeah. I see many men who claim the feminist label and use that as an excuse to insult on the puritanical, prissy, and prude nature of republican women. I see men insult women for not wanting to be choke slammed during sex. I see this in leftist men continuing to watch pornhub despite literal child porn being on there.

I may lose some people here, and I understand why someone would disagree, But i think that, largely, the sex-positivity movement was created by men wanting easier access into women's pants. This thought is very simplified. The rise of dating apps and only fans has made it *that* much easier for men to hook up with or gawk over women.

I believe the (women) pioneers of sex positivity's message has been coopted by broader culture. Changing from women should be allowed to sleep with whoever in a safe environment with no shame, and with respect from their partner(s) to sleep with lots of men all the time! and that is because men got a hold of it.

Leftist spaces have a serious problem with labeling sex as empowering and liberation. Often, hookup culture leaves women feeling worse off. I am not denying that some women can benefit from this, but its clear a majority of women do not. Those women are convinced, largely by men, to confuse sex with intimacy. This so called feminist expression of sexuality is yet another male fantasy women have been deluded into thinking, and it is not their fault!

We saw a major shift from the worst insult for women being escort to prude and I think we will see that shift again in the coming months and years.

Excerpt from The Robber Bride by Margret Atwood, 1998

Male fantasies, male fantasies, is everything run by male fantasies? Up on a pedestal or down on your knees, it's all a male fantasy: that you're strong enough to take what they dish out, or else too weak to do anything about it. Even pretending you aren't catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you're unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur.

Now, in 2022, we are in a weird place. We've long moved past girlbossery and a small (TINYYYY) dip in sex-positive feminism. We are calling out pinkwashing and whatnot, what comes next? People are slowly starting to realize that sex-positivity based feminism only really works on paper or to people who have read a lot about it. Its meaning has been so misconstrued over the years that its a bastardization of its former self. It's been flanderized.

Ok, now that I have stolen my opinion from infinitely better writers than I'll ever be, I leave you with some good essays/articles.
• The Case Against the Sexual Revolution by Lousie Perry
• I Regret Being A Slut by Bridget Phetasy
• Love as the Practice of Freedom by Bell Hooks
• Casualities of the Sex War by Karen Durbin
• Why Sex-Positive Feminism is Falling Out of Fashion by Michelle Goldberg

I'm sorry if you were expecting a light read , but I had a lot of thoughts on the matter and had to get it out.